Dateline: 24 July 2014
I'm pleased to see that all three of my sons are working men. My oldest works for an electrical contractor. My youngest works as a cook at a restaurant. And my middle son, Robert, starts a new job on Monday (three days from now). He is leaving the maple syrup operation (where he has worked for the last two years) and going to work for the local school district as a bus mechanic. The job is only about ten minutes away.
Robert worked as an auto mechanic at a dealership in a nearby city for awhile but left because he was bored. The dealership didn't have enough work to keep him busy, and he didn't like sitting around. While at that job he acquired a deluxe tool box and lots of tools. For the past two years the tools have been in a shed on my property. But today he and I loaded the box (it's remarkably heavy) on a trailer and he headed off to the bus garage to get set up for Monday.
Robert interviewed for the bus mechanic job last year but another man got it. Then, a few weeks ago, he heard that the district was going to fill the other mechanic position. He interviewed again and got the job. They told him he was the most qualified.
When Robert went to the interview last year, I told him that he should wear a tie. I told him that because I wanted him to make a good impression, and I think it sends a very good message when you wear a tie to an interview, even for a mechanic job. I'm probably old fashioned in this regard. But he wore a tie to the interview.
Now, you need to know that Robert is not a tie-wearing fellow. He's more on the redneck side. But he listened to my counsel, dressed up nice, and wore the tie. This pleased me to no end.
When the time came for the most recent interview, I asked Robert if he planned to wear a tie. He said, "Yes, of course, you should always wear a tie to an interview."
I got a little lump in my throat when he said that.
When the morning of the interview came, he was here at the house, polishing his cowboy boots and having his mother iron his shirt. I helped him tie his tie. Then I said, "You really should have a pen in your shirt pocket. I think it sends the right message."
Ordinarily, Robert never has a pen in his pocket… but he did for the interview.
Several days later, he got the good news about the job. Marlene and I were elated and thankful. It is a job that will provide a steady income that will support a family…. as long as he avoids getting into debt, but he has listened to me on that subject too.
He brought home all kinds of paperwork to fill out for the job. I told him that I thought it would be wise of him to open a savings account at the local bank and, right from the very beginning, have a portion of every paycheck he gets direct-deposited into the account. Then never touch the money, unless to invest it in some other way.
I told him that if he did this, he would never regret it, and someday he would tell me it was the best advice I ever gave him.
So… I kid you not… within the hour he went directly down to the bank and opened up a savings account for weekly direct deposits.
Things like this make a father's heart glad.
Wise kid!
ReplyDeleteHerrick, you have given your sons excellent advice! My husband and I are in the middle of a situation that shows how bad it can be to ignore such wise advice. My mom is now 90. My mother, though raised by frugal people, never learned to say "No" to herself. After my dad died 25 years ago, Mom started using credit cards. We never knew and she kept it all secret. She just had a medical issue that resulted in me taking over her checkbook for a while. We have discovered that this woman now has $55,000 in credit card bills. She spends more money each month than she has coming in. Her house--on a good day would only fetch $60,000. We are appalled and stunned!!! Such a miserable situation!! I can't even express what this does to me. My husband and I pay our bills, are NOT in debt & proudly try to be self-sufficient. I'm just gob-smacked by this knowledge that my mom has done this...and what to do??? Good job teaching such wisdom to your sons! Congrats!
ReplyDeleteYou have a right to be proud.
ReplyDeleteGorges—
ReplyDeleteI think so too. Thanks.
Anonymous—
Wow. That's a shocker. I've been meaning to write a blog about credit cards. I think you just wrote it.
Gail—
Thanks. I appreciate that.
However, I want to take this opportunity to say that I almost never (if ever) say (or write) that I'm proud of my kids, or anything I've accomplished myself. I'm very wary of that word. So I use the words "pleased with" or "thankful for" instead of "proud of," and it is pleased and thankful that truly do reflect how I feel.
Thanks again.
God does indeed answer our prayers.
ReplyDeleteI guess bringing up a child in the way he should go, does indeed, when he is old, make him not depart from it.
(or at least, finally understand why you said all the things that you said.)
Oh what a happy day.
It sounds like Marlene and you have a fine young man/men.
ReplyDeleteAwesome stuff, Herrick.
ReplyDelete:-) Very nice. "Pride goeth before a downfall"? Still, I think the boys might like to hear that dad is proud of them. I don't think they'd fall to hear that word, but I still like the fact that it's a respected word and you don't throw it around too easily.
ReplyDeleteYou've done an excellent job raising your boys.
ReplyDeleteI pray my daughters find a young man that has his head on as well as your son does. What a blessing your son must be to you. Make that sons, it sounds like they all bless you and your wife.
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